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Wednesday, September 05, 2007

The First Kiss

Coworker S. mentioned an interesting article today, about the first kiss. Basically it says that men and women see that first kiss very differently - women judge a potential mate by that kiss and men just see it as a means to an end. Feel free to read the article here. There are more differences mentioned, but basically that first kiss makes or breaks the deal.

I'd have to say I agree to a point - I have had first kisses that were pretty bad and it was definitely a deal breaker. I also had first kisses where I didn't see stars and I should have taken it as a sign! Would've saved me some serious time. I do agree that a first kiss can tell a lot about the other person, whether you're male or female.

So men - is the first kiss just a means to an end? Do be honest, but I'm really hoping some of you will disagree. There's really nothing wrong with enjoying all the parts in the middle before you get to the end. If it's the right person, kissing is one of the best parts.

Women - What do you think? Has the first kiss been the deal maker or breaker for you? Were your first kisses an omen for the rest of the relationship?

7 comments:

New White Keds said...

Let me be the first to tell you... a bad first kiss is NOT the end all and be all. Just ask my now husband about our nearly catastrauphic first several goes at it. Thank God for perserverance.

On the other hand, there is nothing quite like a knee knocking first kiss. But the fun part comes in trying to re-create it.

Nik said...

I don't think a first kiss is indicative of anything. It's an awkward experience, no matter how many first kisses you've had(in my opinion). Now, if it's a bad first kiss and they don't get better, then heck yeah, I'd head for the hills.

Barbara (aka Layla) said...

Well, I'm with you. I have had some first kisses that were deal breakers because like you said - a kiss can tell a lot about a person. For example, my first kiss with a recent guy also involved his hands roaming everywhere - that's not the kind of guy I want to be with. Then there were kisses that lacked confidence which for me is a total turn off.

But with that said, there have been times when the kiss wasn't all that great but I liked the guy so stuck it out and don't regret it.

I disagree with Nik, sometimes first kisses can be awesome not all are awkward....mmmmm I still remember some that knocked my socks off.

I can't wait to hear how people answer this.

An80sNut said...

First kisses are important. I believe the butterflies and anxiety going into it make it an important moment for two people that really do want something more than sex. That said... there are some people that only want to get it out of the way and get moving to the next step. It's hard to sense what is in someone elses head at this time.

I've had a few first kisses that I couldn't wait to get back to for seconds. Then again, I can't say all of them worked out.

BeckEye said...

Kissing is SO, SO important. There was a guy who I was friends with for a long time and there was a ton of sexual tension between us, and basically he was my first love, but we were never together. So finally, he made a move and he kissed me and he was the worst kisser ever. It was really awkward. I thought that it wasn't necessarily a deal-breaker because good kissing could be taught (yeah, right!) but then he turned into a giant asshole so it didn't matter anyway.

Malcolm: said...

A first kiss is not a means to an end for me. For the long-term relationships I've been in, I think that the kisses got better because the feelings between me and the woman deepened. Not that they were bad from the start. I just think the love we felt took a kiss that might normally rate a 7 or an 8 to another level.

Luckily, I have only been with one bad kisser. It was my last night in Marquette before I moved back downstate, so I'll never know whether or not her technique might have improved.

Vegas Princess said...

I have to say I put alot of stock in those first kisses and if they didn't pan out I would not pursue anything further. However, I did have some knee-knocking kisses that led nowhere. I think when it all comes down to it, your last first kiss (meaning the one you have with your furture mate for life) ends up blocking all the other out and it turns out to be wonderful whether or not other may agree with you.