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Thursday, November 30, 2006

Hello, We Broke Up!

I had a dream about an exboyfriend last night. Let me clarify. I had a dream about an exboyfriend, again. Same ex, different dream. We broke up ten.years.ago! WTF?! I know I've mentioned this guy before, so those of you who have been on this road before, bear with me. This guy and I dated for 5 years. I wanted to marry this guy in the worst way. Everyone BUT him thought we were going to get married someday. After about the third year we both knew it was never going to happen, but neither one of us was smart enough to end the relationship. How did it finally end? Well my version is that he left me for a younger, skinnier, way more girlie-girl cocktail waitress that he'd had as a confidante for months. I'm not sure what his version would be, but who cares, this is my blog! The big picture is that he did us both the BIGGEST favor; he was and is an overall good guy but neither one of us was ready for marriage. If we would have, I can guarantee we'd now be divorced (or miserable).

We'd met about two years before we started dating; he had no idea, but I'd decided I wanted to be with him from that very first moment. You know when people say they just felt they "knew it" from the first time they saw someone? Yeah, that's what it was. I ended up being completely wrong on that (obviously!), but he apparently left a huge impression. I had a hard time letting him go, and TEN FREAKIN' years later, I'm still having dreams where I wake up angry at him.

Karl finds it funny. He met the guy, and liked him. Humpf!

7 comments:

Ken said...

Too funny. I've heard a couple of stories like that. My friend Mike and my ex-roommate Dave are an interesting comparison. Let me explain, Dave is the ex-husband of Mike's current wife. (Mike's on marriage number 3 and he's younger than me!) They get along just fine. In fact, they usually gang up to pick on Mike's wife. It is kind of funny.

An80sNut said...

There may have been a lesson that you learned from that relationship that your subconscious likes to remind you about. I think you'd have to describe the dream with a little more detail. hahaha But then again, I think we all have dreams of people that were important in our lives even if they aren't in them anymore.

Nik said...

I agree with Karl (and everybody else) that is pretty funny! It sucks that you broke up, but sounds like it wasn't meant to be and you got a better deal.

I have dreams about my ex-boyfriend a few times a year and I get a kick out of them. I'm never angry or anything, they're just weird. More like, yeah we broke up, but either one or both of us seems to be hanging on to a lil bit of hope of getting back together (which we'd discussed at one point, but neither one of us wanted that). Just like 80snut said, I think we do keep certain people in our dreams, cuz even if we can't stand them today, they still were a part of our lives.

Vegas Princess said...

I've had those kind of dreams too and they kinda scare me. And I get mad too when I am upset about something in a dream and my hubby thinks it is funny because it's a dream and not real...they just don't understand.

ScrapAddictNV said...

Don't beat yourself up. I still find myself occasionally dreaming about a guy I once dated who I thought (then and for quite a while later) was the love of my life. We only dated a year, and almost had a child - but as fate had it, I miscarried and the relationship dwindled. I later opened my eyes and realized I had to have been brainwashed cause he was a loser and not serious boyfriend/husband material, but still even 10 years later, I find myself thinking about him, then I think the "what if" and beleive me, I know if we had continued, life would suck. We'd constantly be drunk & struggling with bills, credit, etc. instead of having the great life I have now. That's why I beleive everything happens for a reason. I just wish I could get the remainding bit of him out of my blood, it's like a virus. I have a wonderful man who loves me, and would never cheat on me unlike the ex, whom I must say had 6-8 affairs/or one night stands. Don't know what it is about bad boys, or the wrong type of guys, but somehow they always seem to get us girls till we wise up and get out. But at least Karl had met and likes this guy, if Ruben ever met my ex, I think he would kill him. Long story, but the ex once held a gun to my head and threatened to kill me, and yes, dumb stupid brainwashed me, stayed with him even after that. Thank god I grew up and started thinking for myself! And as much as I hate to say this because it sounds sooooo bad, but I'm even thankful I lost the baby. I couldn't imagine being tied to this man the rest of my life.......but god did he have good looks and a hot bod.

BarBarA said...

I still have dreams of my HS Sweetheart - and that was 25 years ago. Ugh.

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